Embarking on a surrogacy journey involves critical decisions, and choosing the right surrogate is among the most crucial. While some opt for surrogates through agencies or independent searches, others prefer a trusted friend or loved one. Each path has its pros and cons.

Asking a close friend or loved one to carry your child as a surrogate is deeply personal, potentially evoking complex emotions. Before approaching someone with this life-changing question, consider these tips:

1. Know Surrogate Qualifications:

Familiarize yourself with surrogate qualifications, including age, health, and lifestyle criteria outlined by the American Society for Reproductive Medicine.

2. Be Open and Honest:

Share your surrogacy journey with your inner circle, potentially leading to a volunteer. If you have someone specific in mind, have an open and honest conversation, providing resources and explaining your path to parenthood.

3. Be Prepared for Any Answer:

Be ready for a “no” without damaging the relationship. If the answer is “yes,” prepare for the next steps. Address medical, emotional, and financial matters openly, ensuring alignment on critical issues.

4. Legal Contract:

Regardless of your relationship, a legal contract is essential. Engage an attorney specializing in surrogacy to draft a comprehensive contract covering financial aspects, risks, parental rights, and expectations.

Navigating gestational surrogacy is complex, but Surrogacy Roadmap offers a step-by-step guide for a smoother journey. Explore it for comprehensive insights into the entire surrogacy process.