Meeting your surrogate mother for the first time is an exciting yet nerve-wracking experience for intended parents. To ensure a smooth initial encounter, we have curated 7 PRO tips:
1. Research and prepare
- Before the meeting, thoroughly read your surrogate’s profile.
- Prepare questions with your partner, ensuring you have a clear understanding of her personality and your requirements.
- Set a date and time and be punctual to set a positive tone.
2. Respect her privacy
- Balance curiosity with respect.
- Discuss general topics like lifestyle and goals, avoiding intrusive questions.
- Trust the surrogacy process and refrain from micromanaging details in the first meeting.
3. Ask questions and value her input
- Focus on light conversations and avoid sensitive topics.
- Inquire about her motivations for choosing surrogacy, aspirations, and lifestyle.
- Absorb information without judgment and respect differences.
4. They are not doing it exclusively for financial gain
- Dispel the misconception that surrogates are solely motivated by financial gain.
- Emphasize their altruistic motives and avoid dwelling on financial aspects in the first meeting.
5. Communication is key
- Establish clear communication patterns with your surrogate.
- Inquire about her preferred communication methods, respecting her schedule and family commitments.
6. Give Her Space and Opportunity to Talk
- Provide room for your surrogate to ask questions and express reservations.
- Showcase your commitment to the surrogacy journey and your preparedness for parenthood.
7. Be Yourself
- Authenticity fosters a genuine relationship.
- Relax, breathe, and act naturally.
- Ask your surrogate how you can make her comfortable during the surrogacy journey.
THE FINAL WORD
Building a healthy surrogacy journey takes time. Take it slow, follow these guidelines, and remember, you can delve deeper into discussions in subsequent meetings. For more tips on ensuring a smooth surrogacy journey, download Surrogacy Roadmap today!
We wish you a happy and fruitful surrogacy journey!